Why feeling lost is more normal than you think.
This week I got back from vacation. Well, to be 100% honest, I worked during our time away, but I reduced the workload on my personal marketing so I could still sip coconuts and enjoy the sunshine. When I logged back into work on Monday, I felt overwhelmed and lost.
Funny enough, that was just one day before the official start of the Month of Clarity here on my coaching account. And there I was, feeling completely unclear myself.
But maybe nothing could have transported today’s message better than that moment. Because today, I want to normalise feeling lost.
Yes, there is such a thing as clarity. And yes, there are brilliant tools and processes that help us gain it. But the truth is, when we’re not actively creating clarity, we’re usually sitting somewhere else in the spectrum, feeling overwhelmed, unsure, and caught up in the noise.
Let’s start with one key reminder:
We don’t just stumble upon clarity one random day.
We create it. One small step at a time.
And even when we do find it, it doesn’t always stay. We’re constantly shifting, growing, transforming. You might have felt clear yesterday, or left for vacation with a full plan in mind, and still find yourself feeling in chaos today.
That’s not failure. That’s being human.
The problem with how we talk about clarity
The self-development world loves to promise clarity. And a lot of coaches will hand you a clear five-step method to find your purpose or map your life. That’s not what we’re doing this month.
Instead, we’re sitting in the discomfort of what is.
We’re honouring the messy middle.
Because clarity will come.
But only if we first allow ourselves to be here.
Here’s the other truth I’ve been thinking about:
Just because you’re unsure about your next step in one area of life doesn’t mean you’re completely lost. But if you keep telling yourself you are, your mind will look for more evidence to support that story. You’ll see chaos everywhere, even when you’re doing okay.
It’s the red car effect — when you start thinking about buying a red car, you suddenly see them everywhere. The same goes for feeling lost.
If you believe you’re a mess, your brain will show you all the ways that’s true.
And then there’s this:
We’ve normalised feeling clear as the goal.
But clarity is actually the exception.
The rest of the time — the 99% — is where life happens. Where growth happens.
And it’s time we stopped labelling that space as wrong.
A moment that brought me back
This week, when I wanted to cry and crawl back into bed instead of returning to my workload, my husband reminded me of something simple:
You don’t need to do everything at once.
Just take the one next step.
That step gets the ball rolling.
That’s how clarity builds.
It’s not about having it all figured out, but it’s about moving forward anyway.
Coaching tool you can try
If you’re feeling messy or uncertain, try this simple exercise I use with coaching clients:
Write down everything swirling in your head.
Circle the three things that matter most right now.
Ask: what’s one small action that feels good — even if it’s not the full solution?
t’s about moving toward what feels honest and true (and about having a small win, showing yourself you can manage this).
Clarity is something you build, not something you wait for. And feeling lost isn’t a problem. It’s a portal, and more normal than you think.
So if you’re starting July in chaos, confused energy, or uncertainty, I want to tell you, you’re not alone and you’re for sure not behind.
Happy to figure it out together.
x Mimi
PS: If you want a gentle guide to help you spot what’s out of balance and get clear on what’s next, I made a mid-year reset video for you. It comes with a free guide here.
